Helpful Info

 

Mediation and Collaborative Organizations

Family & Divorce Mediation Council of Greater New York (FDMC)

New York State Council On Divorce Mediation (NYSCDM)

New York Association of Collaborative Professionals (NYACP)

 

 My Bookshelf

General Information

Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In, Roger Fisher, Bruce M. Patton, and William Ury

The Good Divorce, Constance Ahrons

A Guide to Divorce Mediation, How to Reach a Fair, Legal Settlement at a Fraction of the Cost, Gary J. Friedman

Divorce Without Court, Katherine E. Stoner

The Collaborative Way to Divorce: The Revolutionary Method that Results in Less Stress, Lower Costs, and Happier Kids–Without Going to Court, Ron Ousky, Stuart Webb

Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most, Douglas Stone and Bruce Patton

Surviving Separation and Divorce: Regaining Control, Building Strength and Confidence, Securing a Financial Future, Lorian Hoff Oberlin

Heart of Divorce: Advice from a Judge, Susan P. Baker

The Good Karma Divorce: Avoid Litigation, Turn Negative Emotions into Positive Actions, and Get On with the Rest of Your Life, Judge Michele Lowrance

Tao Te Ching: A New English Version, Lao Tzu and Stephen Mitchell (translator)

Parenting and Children

Two Homes One Childhood: A Parenting Plan to Last a Lifetime,  Robert E. Emery, PhD

Mom’s House, Dad’s House : a Complete Guide for Parents Who Are Separated, Divorced, or Remarried, Isoline Ricci, PhD

We’re Still Family: What Grown Children Have to Say About Their Parents’ DivorceConstance Aprons, PhD

Putting Children First: Proven Parenting Strategies for Helping Children Thrive Through Divorce, Joanne Pedro-Carroll

Ex-Etiquette for Parents: Good behavior After a Divorce or Separation, Jann Blackstone-Ford, Sharyl Jupe

Mindful Co-parenting: A Child-Friendly Path through Divorce,  Jeremy S. Gaies, James B. Morris, Jr.

 

Articles of Interest

For Divorced Parents, Navigating Coronavirus Is a Balancing Act, March 27, 2020:  NYTimes article discussing how parents need to be creative and work together in the best-interests of their child(ren).  This is always the case, but very challenging during a pandemic. 

Spousal Support Guidelines Offer Framework for MediationApril 2016: This thoughtful article, written by my dear friends and colleagues Abby and Ellie, helps demystify our new maintenance guidelines, and reminds us that they are in fact just guidelines for parties in mediation.

For Couples Skipping the Ring, It Helps to Plot Out Finances, April 17, 2016:  Unmarried partners are not afforded the same financial or legal protections as married couples.  These couples may benefit from compassionate legal counseling or mediation to help with decisions necessary for living together (cohabitation agreement) or for separating.   

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Parenting References and Information

2houses.com neutral platform offers tools that help parents communicate, organize, manage parenting schedule and expenses.

The OurFamilyWizard®:  Parenting time, visitation schedules, activities, expenses, messaging, journals and more.

New York State Parent Education and Awareness Program

Seven Guidelines for Co-Parenting During Covid-19 AFCC’s guidelines to help parents navigate shared custody during difficult times.  In short, keep best interests of the child front and center.

General Divorce Information

NY Courts Divorce Resources